Trying to fit in is exhausting. So try fitting out and just let yourself be you! 🙂 How crazy is that idea?!

What if you were never meant to “fit in”?

What if trying to fit in is what has kept you on the hamster wheel going through the motions?

Our culture and economy need you to be constantly trying to fit in by keeping up with the Joneses.

What if the answer to why you’ve never felt fully happy, fulfilled, or at peace with yourself is because you’ve spent so much energy and time trying to fit in you completely lost yourself in the process?

How do you break free of the constant cycle of fitting in? 

How do you reconnect with yourself?

Focus on fitting out. Choosing you. Doing things that are different from your norm. Practicing not caring about what other people think, even though some of them might think you’ve gone and lost it. That’s ok! 🙂

The pressure to fit in comes from the fear of judgment from other people. We all keep each other in check by holding up social norms as the standard. But is this working?

So many people are struggling. This fitting in thing is just not working anymore, yet they don’t know how to disentangle themselves from the web of expectations.

The answer? Take a small step that feels crazy uncomfortable. It doesn’t matter what it is, what matters is that you choose you when you do it.

To fit in you must put yourself last, so fitting out requires that you start to choose you.

Here’s a perfect example: Is there something that people are expecting you to do that you haven’t volunteered for, but they’ve assumed you were going to do it anyway? You really don’t want to do it, but you’re dreading the flack you might get for not doing it, and you know you’ll end up guilting yourself if you don’t do it? The fitting out choice here is to bow out. Tell them you aren’t available to do it and wish them all the best with so much love. Try not to justify why you’re saying no. And try not to shower them with endless apologies. Just choose you and say no.

The fear and anticipation of the judgment is almost always worse than it ends up being, but we let that fear rule our lives and we end up living our lives in a way that others say we should be rather than in a way that fills us with joy, peace, connection, fulfillment, and meaning.

The holidays are a perfect time to witness all the areas in your life where you are fitting in rather than choosing you. We have been subjected to so much unconscious programming around the do’s and don’ts of this time of year. It’s exhausting trying to keep up.

In the next few weeks, I encourage you to practice fitting out and choose you as often as you feel inspired to. Even if it’s just once, it will help to break you out of the programming of fitting in.

Your energy (time too!) is too valuable to just be giving it away unconsciously.

Value your energy.

Value YOU.

You matter.

There are still a couple of spaces left for the Soul Magic Retreat in Mexico. That is going to be an amazing way to start off your year and will help reinforce this life-changing practice of choosing you. And don’t forget about the special offers available until December 31st!! See below for details.

Shine bright, dear one!

With so much love,

Julie