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 One of Ilene Dillon’s favorite things to share with others is that we’re all in school together! Our earth, she says, is a “Giant School,” to which we’ve all come to learn and grow.


And the name of our “teacher” is Experience! Every time we have an experience, we have an Opportunity--to learn and grow. Ilene has worked for years to help herself and others to know and understand this system, and learn their personal “lessons.” She’s been a Marriage and Family Therapist, Clinical Social Worker, radio show host, author, teacher and global speaker for 50 years, sharing the message that Emotions are designed as Helpers in learning life’s lessons, brought to us through our experiences.


Experience is really important. Now in her late-70’s, Ilene has had amazing amounts of Opportunities and incredible experiences (see below). This helps her empathize with others, know their struggles very personally, and be a leader in assisting with people’s learning, because she has found the way through and out and loves to share and support.


Ilene is a Recovered Angry Person, whose own journey out of the wilderness of overwhelming anger led her to identify and develop a system for working with anger and all emotions, which she calls Emotional Mastery. Knowing we cannot actually get rid of emotions, Ilene nonetheless no longer “does” anger, jealousy, loneliness, fear, guilt or shame. She says she is now the Master of Emotions, and therefore emotions no longer tyrannically run her life!


Ilene is a survivor of childhood abandonment, incest and abuse. Her life is testament that such things are merely learning experiences, and do not have to maintain a lifetime hold over us.


When she was the victim of a big-time Manipulation, Ilene began her years-long study to figure out what Manipulation is all about. Manipulation is a thing of the past in her life; and she claims human beings are designed to outgrow Manipulation by adulthood. She tells people how to do this in her book, Ending Manipulation, currently in the publication process.


As a 20-year Single Parent, Ilene developed a way to Parent Consciously, which she has taught in the US and abroad. Ilene knows how to make lemonade out of lemons—she helps others to reclaim their lives by using their “lessons” to create amazingly improved lives for themselves.


Ilene Dillon is author of Emotions in Motion: Mastering Life’s Built-in Navigation System (Amazon). Starting in 2019, Ilene’s been writing a book a year, with her 2021 book being a deep dive into mastering Anger, Depression, and Guilt. Prior to 2019, Ilene was author of more than 20 books, workbooks, and media sets, including Happiness is a Decision of the Heart, and 7 manuals that show parents how to help their children with emotions (The ABCs of Anger, The ABCs of Love, etc.)


Ilene’s courses: Mastering Anger, Emotional Mastery Masterclass, and Fear-less Living, are being released in 2020. With workbooks! She has had amazing partners in creating these classes, including Marian LaSalle, Louise Dewey, and Wellness Universe member Scarlet Strapko (who is a certified essential oils expert). Find more about courses here:


Some of the experiences Ilene has had that may interest you are…..she lived in Paris, France as a child and was in a flood of the Seine River. She lived 5 years in a houseboat on Lake Union in Seattle, Washington, while attending college. She lived 28 years in Marin County (above San Francisco), California. Ilene currently lives and travels full-time in her 24 foot RV, Mariah, with her little 8 pound Maltipoo dog, Pi. She took up this lifestyle after her husband, neurosurgeon Dr. Robert Fink, died in early 2016. Dr. Fink brought Ilene into his OR to view, up close and personal, some of his surgeries, an unforgettable experience she had requested. Do you know that once he cut through the skin, everybody was exactly the same color? Ilene also has swum in the ocean with a full-grown Jaguar (and has photos to prove it)!


Ilene Dillon is birth mother of two (with 5 amazing grandchildren), adoptive mother of one, and stepmother of 3. It would take her a week to tell you all the amazing and wonderful things about these beautiful people. One of these people ran a Maternal Health program for indigenous families in the jungle of Ecuador for ten years. We also boast an Equity Actress, a Professional Organizer, a Professional film and video producer, a serial independent entrepreneur, and a college professor. It’s likely Ilene will have both a Rocket Scientist and a Neurosurgeon in her immediate family, since two of her grandchildren are well on their way to accomplishing these careers.

Awards and Affiliations

Member of the Year, San Francisco Chapter, National Speakers Association

Wellness Universe Featured Author Member


Causes and Organizations

Global Ambassador, Parenting 2.0, Linked In

California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists

National Speakers Association

Escapees (RV)

The Wellness Universe: World Changer!


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